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Over 60% of remarriages end in a re-divorce. Just let that one sink in a minute. It’s a scary statistic. If you’re like most people, you just read that and thought, “Yeah, but that’s not us.” Let me stop you right there. If you’re preparing to remarry, it IS you! You do run a higher likelihood of getting a divorce than of having a successful remarriage.

I don’t mean to sound real negative. I just want to make sure you’re being realistic. Living in a fantasy world of denial doesn’t help you prepare for the challenges that await you.

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In the sphere of homeownership, a legal divorce can cause a great deal of confusion. The question which hangs heavily over the separation is how to split up all of the joint assets. Some ex-spouses make it very easy by simply handing over everything and making a clean split. However, this is usually not the case, and certain issues can become quite complex. Perhaps the most complicated of these is how to split the home in half. And this question of real estate ownership depends primary on the state in which you live.

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One of the difficult aspects of child custody cases is the fact the inexperience most people have in the matter. Uncertainty with family-related matters, especially legal ones, can leave you constantly wondering if you are doing the right things. But there are several outlets you can utilize for child custody advice. Here is a listing of the best places to start.

Your Lawyer

The most obvious starting point for advice should be your lawyer. Since custody is a legal issue, you need to have access to a professional who knows the intricacies of family law. Make sure that your lawyer has experience with custody cases. If your lawyer does not have this experience, than ask for a referral of someone who does.

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Question From A Reader: Since the divorce stuff started, I have been trying to talk to different women as it has been 7 years since I have been single.

I met this one woman who is very interesting, we have exchanged several long emails, text messaged each other, talked on the phone, and had dinner together, all in about a week of knowing each other.

Now, I am not trying to jump back into anything serious and I don’t want to rush into anything either.

However, I really like this woman and want to get to know her better and she already knows I am going through a divorce.

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A marriage or any other relationship whether it be a friendship or intimate relationship between two people can only endure if it has love flowing through it. Today’s marriages are failing at record levels in the western world, recent statistics show that in the United States alone that almost half of marriages there end in divorce. Marriages cannot endure without love and it seems that the world is lacking a lot of love today. Jesus Christ predicted that in the last days “the love of many would wax cold” (Matthew 24:12). It certainly seems like the love of many is waxing cold if we look upon today’s world. With all the divorces and broken families in today’s world, it seems as though things are getting worse and worse and that the world is in a famine for love, love is lacking and we are in a drought for it.

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Are you in the midst of incredible emotional pain? Has your world been turned upside down by divorce, loss or job transition? The ancients have an important message for you.

Part 1

I can’t see the sun. I can feel its heat rising all around me, but I can’t see it. The ground under my feet is dry and dusty. The heat brings out the smell of dry and broken needles.

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It can be much easier to fall in love with one’s fantasy than with a flesh and blood person. For some, their major satisfaction comes through fantasy, even when they are with someone real. For others, that filmy shadow between fantasy and reality can be very hard to detect. Some men impose their fantasies upon real women, others refuse to have on-going contact with a woman in order to maintain her status as a fantasy lover, forever enshrined in their minds and hearts. Although men who prefer fantasy over reality seem to love women, the real women they encounter may forever be strangers to them.

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I have a definite bias on this subject. You may find this section difficult if you are considering a divorce or are already divorced. This section may sound harsh, but it gives voice to your children’s needs and the sometimes hidden consequences of divorce.

For over 20 years I have counseled young people ages 5-18, their families and extended families. This one event, divorce, affects children and teens’ lives profoundly and for a lifetime.

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Even something like buying a used car can become difficult for a divorced woman who may not have any experience purchasing a new or used vehicle in the past. Although there is typically a great deal of anxiety and pressure associated with the purchase of a used car, this task is something that can be quite simple. As often with purchases that involve a large monetary commitment, having the stress of getting the right used car for the right amount of money can often cause women to avoid the purchase all together. In most cases though, not purchasing a vehicle is not a realistic option, so be sure to consider the following tips for used car purchases.

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